In the prior post we limited comments to the topic of money and when D would be allowed to contact his father’s family. We heard something about the money. Thus far there has been no reply to the question of when D will be allowed to talk with his family.

Really the bottom line here is that H is blocking D’s access to his father which is part of a long history of blocked access , and at times she has been right down vicious about it. As we have H’s defender, Count Olaf, ‘on the line’ (judging from the logs, apparently with dozens of accesses to the site today) – lets ask him to speak right to the heart of the matter by answering this question:

“What have you or H ever done to facilitate D’s relationship with his father?” You all have been the ‘primary conservator’ so this is your responsibility. Please be specific in your answer.

D has not been allowed letters, emails, phone calls, physical visits, or communication of any form with his father, family or friends since last May including during this Christmas holiday. The note shown in the banner above is the last I heard from him. It was rolled up in a gift he made. All calls to the house have gone unanswered. There have been zero return calls, not one. All calls to H have gone unanswered since June 11. At that time she said he needed “further treatment” as he was still asking for his dad. This “treatment” extends through Christmas this year. This is not the first time D has been denied access to his father for long periods. Her anger against D stems from the beginning. D’s father is a respected professional and D has a rich relationship with his father .

If the many many comments on this website from the boyfriend indicate anything, it is that he is *engaged* in this activity of denying D access to his father. Rather than letting those comments continue to pile high and deep I will provide focus here: Jay, H, you are invited to submit comments to this post that provide schedules of when D may come to visit his father, times in which D will call or his father may call him, when H is is going to let him exchange email with his father, and how much money H is asking me to send now, about $150,000 right?

H continues to prevent D from contacting his father or father’s family. The pain of it is immense.

We have now heard from Jay, H’s boyfriend who testified he would do anything for H, that H thinks I am evil, and that he would be a good replacement father, though don’t take me word for that, read his testimony here Sadly his comments are blind of D’s feelings, aggressive towards me, and lacking of compassion or empathy, so he brings no hope of a better world for D. We also learn from his comments of another insult to D, Jay says D was forced to apologize for “lying” when he wrote an essay that H kicked his dog.

So much damage has been done to D in the name of ‘get dad’, emotionally and financially for his future. In the name of hatred he is being denied so many gifts only his father can give him. In the name of hatred he is being saddled with issues that will haunt him for a lifetime.

Christmas is coming and it appears D will not experience paternal love or have the experience of visiting Grandma and Grandpa.

Everyone knows the divorce courts are flawed, H can not hide behind them. They never gave H anything she didn’t ask for – and ask for while spending lots of money, manipulating people, and lying. She couldn’t buy his love, but she bought this instead.

I am D’s father. I remind readers that this blog contains opinions. We are fortunate to have a comment on the prior post from H’s boyfriend Jay as it illustrates part of the dynamic affecting D. D has suffered so much, but Jays comment does not help that situation one bit. Jay’s comment is shown below, but first let me provide a couple paragraphs of important context.

Firstly, you should know that in 2007 Jay testified that he would like to replace me as D*’s father. He also said he would do anything H asks him to. here is a link to the relevant part of the transcript. I think key to understanding this situation is also H’s early testimony and H’s manipulative scenarios.

Secondly, D was not abducted. D refused to return after the holidays foiling the original plans, and then H did not answer the telephone – just as H has not answered the phone since June 11. H had D held in a psychiatric ward for three weeks and a staff of psychiatrists could not get him to go with her. After over two months of psychiatric “treatment” when officer Chris Wilson did a wellness check D told the officer he wanted to live with his dad and did so right in front of H. By this time me, my family and our friends, had been nowhere near him for months. There simply is no space for an interpretation that D was not sincere or that he was coerced in his refusing to return, or that H helped resolve the situation rather than using it to advantage.

Jay writes: Tom has a right to visit D on alternate weekends in Georgetown, which H will obey per the custody order. He has no rights to call D on the phone or contact him by email. Tom lost joint custody and his previous visitation rights as a direct consequence of the international abduction. Any of his family who supported Tom’s poor choice to abduct D need to now accept that this is the legal consequence. H is not to blame.

Jay wants you to believe that there was a conspiracy of my family to abduct D and he explains that is why H is not letting D communicate with anyone who has anything to do with dad, including the little girl Monica, his 11 year old friend, his cousins, and grandma. Also, what is H’s excuse for all the other times she prevented him from seeing his father? You the reader should also know there have been other unfounded abduction allegations. He also implies we have been to court over this when we haven’t.

Here is an explanation that makes more sense than ‘brainwashing’ as H claims. 11 old D has enough sense to understand the difference between a loving home with dad and living under the thumb of a manipulative person and a sycophant – and H is using him as a weapon to ‘get’ dad. Note these links, D’s rich relationship with dad, H abuse of D , she can’t love him , D watches as his mother kicks his dog , threatened to convince him to return (summer 2008)

It would be great if I had D every weekend as Jay says here. But why would a person who does not let D communicate with his father via email or telephone for seven months so far, and accuses dad of abducting D on a public blog going so far as suggesting a family conspiracy, suddenly offer weekends? And why in Georgetown which is an hour from Austin when none of us live there? Let me provide an interpretation that makes sense, D will not be there to be picked up for the weekend, but instead I will be given legal service for an ’emergency hearing’ or some other nasty legal trick when trying to pick him up like the other times . Please prove me wrong, Jay if H is serious about letting D see his father, blot out identifying information and put the flight details right here on the blog so everyone can see that D will be seeing his father and when.

I have noticed that H and Jay like to hide behind things H got by going to the court repeatedly for years , but the court never gave H anything she didn’t pay a lot of money, lie, and manipulate to get. Nor would the court deny H if she started asking for things that were in D’s interest, such as more time with his father.

 

In seven months with about 20 calls a month, that is over a hundred unanswered phone calls. It is wearing on me.  Freescale is allowing H* to work at home so that she can prevent D* from answer the phone in the afternoon after school.  D* has been there when the phone rang. It appears that D* is confined to the house and that Freescale has been paying for his professional ‘treatment’ (see http://www.ITIOaChild.com/psychexploit.php).  Grandma has stopped calling as it is futile.  She has been sending cards but H* signs for them but there is no indication that D* has received them.   Cousins and friends D* had with his father also can not get near him.  H* has apparently signed up Chilsholm Trail Middle school to help and turn away calls  (see http://www.ITIOaChild.com/manipulation.php).

His mother H* has not answered the phone even once since June 11, and I have not been able to contact my son in any manner since May.

I called psychologist Gary York’s office last week and discovered D* is seeing him and had an appointment Today.  I sent Dr. York a link to the website, but he did not reply to the email.  When I called today hoping to talk with D*  I was told by the receptionist that Dr. York has a court order so that he is not allowed to share *any* information with me.  What a horror.

I sent a card saying Thinking of you. I sent it certified mail. I wrote in it about all the family was doing ect. The Certified was sign by H. I will not know if D gets to read it. Someday he will see what I have sent and know we still are thinking about him I hope in the next card I send I will ask him if he can send a card back for my Birthday. We will see what happens. Grandma Sandy

Found D* had been moved to the “Adam Haseeb Memorial Pages” on For the Lost in a Google search today.  It made me sick with fear.  I went back again and noticed the date was before the police officer did a wellness check and found D* at the house in Round Rock on July 11.  Someone really should do something about all these opportunistic/vigilante websites that sensationalize the missing children list especially as they do not bother to make corrections when new information becomes available. Make no mistake, they are hate sites, not children sites.